Achieve Your Dream Marriage

Get you started with the tools you need to transform your relationship!

Achieve Your Dream Marriage

Enjoy this FREE resource as you take important steps to transform your marriage from deep frustration to deep satisfaction!

Get you started with the tools you need to transform your relationship!

FREE WORKSHOP

Rod has served as marriage and relationships coach to couples from these organizations

Better Communication... Fewer Conflicts

Learn the powerful keys to opening up couples communication.

WE ALL WANT TO BE HAPPY & SUCCEED IN OUR MARRIAGES A & RELATIONSHIPS

But many of us feel frustrated in our relationships, stressed, anxious, and ready to quit.

While the idea of having a successful relationship is goals & dreams; it can also feel frustrating & elusive.

Most couples today are struggling to communicate, resolve conflicts, feel known and accepted by their partner, and they’re losing trust. No wonder it’s so easy to get discouraged and feel like you’ve made a big mistake and chosen the wrong person.

Oftentimes, couples who are succeeded professionally are so focused on vocational success that they can’t imagine a relationship with no stress, a healthy connection, and productive communication. Yet they know deep down that a strong marriage and trusted relationship is what they really want. They just don’t know how to achieve it.

Meet Rod

Rod has spent his lifetime studying intimate relationship dynamics, working for over 30 years coaching ultra-high-performing athletes and their partners in professional sports and business, and gathering the most important biblical principles, psychological insights and coaching wisdom, that leads couples to life-long success.

Being raised in low-income housing by his single mom, he has beaten the odds to have achieved a thriving marriage and family for 34 years and going, earned two Super Bowl rings, and built a highly effective coaching practice serving as a coach, mentor, and trusted advisor to some of the most respected people in the world of sports.

Meet Rod

Success Stories

“Like every other area in our lives, having a coach and resources to lean on and find real truths has made a big difference. It’s been reassuring to see other couples who are also in the “shit”, working through stuff together. It’s not all IG and best foot forward. We’re real people with real stuff in our backgrounds. A lot of us don’t know how to deal with our emotions given our backgrounds. We need the things you’ve taught us.”

- Case & Kimberly NFL -- Houston Texans

“Before working with Rod as our marriage coach, we were stuck in the same cycle of conflict. We now have the tools to see one another’s needs. We can now resolve conflict in a healthy, and more efficient way. We are so grateful for the support we received and the opportunity to work with Rod!”

Taron & Meghan NFL -- Buffalo Bills

“This has been transformational … especially to see other couples in our field learn to be vulnerable. Thanks for opening the floor to help us open up, Rod. Your knowledge has helped me to open up to be able to talk about difficult conversations. The homework exercises helped us take our relationship to the next level. We really appreciate the tools you’ve given us!”

- Tre' Davious & Ikea NFL -- LA Rams

“The NFL community was all we knew our whole married life. But the coaching community with Rod helped us make the transition. We learned to process conversations and emotions as a couple so we could try to meet each other’s needs. We learned how to listen well to each other so we could hear what the other person is truly saying. That helped us deal with a lot of pinned up stuff. Rod did an amazing job of explaining marriage biblically to us and helping us do the work we didn’t know how to do. Our marriage has never been stronger.”

Chris & Serah NFL -- Eagles

“Working with Rod has been a transformative experience. We love the space we have to connect deeper and check in with each other. Not only do we feel more connected and on the same page, but we also are communicating with so much more ease. We both love that we’re talking about things we may have not addressed if we didn’t have Rod’s support. If you’re about to get married or want to feel more connected in your relationship, we highly reccommend Rod’s coaching. Not only is he extremely knowledgeable we also both feel so safe to share openly and freely with him. We are so grateful to continue our journey in partnership with Rod on our side.”

Leo & Hailey NFL -- Seahawks

ROD'S METHODOLOGY

The 6 Part Formula for Couples Success

Rod’s expertise is in the application of psychology and the biblical theology of relationships. He believes this is the formula for couples success.

His years of research and teachings center around helping couples uncover what has made them who they are, discover how they function in relationships, be honest about why the function as they do, and embrace what they need for their relationships to be healthy.

Stage 1 - Uncover Your Personal Why For Love +

The first step to building a dream relationship life that is vibrant and healthy is to go beneath the surface to understand our own “why”. Our why is the key to our motivations in love relationships and our rarely expressed (and little known) desire to heal some part of our lives. Our expectations in relationships, as well as our disappointments, can be better understood when we uncover our why. Here we get couples clear about lifelong patterns and often, life-long pains that show up in our relationships.

Stage 2 - Level Up Your Emotional Understanding +

We were created, in part, to be emotional beings. But our emotions are what get us in trouble in our relationships. Sometimes they lead us in ways that we do not know. And sometimes we hurt each other deeply because we don’t “see” emotions.

This is the most neglected part of our relationship journey because it is the most neglected part of our lives. To build rich connections, we help couples develop a deep respect for the place and role emotions play in our lives and in our relationships with each other. Couples who lean into this 2nd stage are poised for great success!

Stage 3 - Unstack Conflicts & Clarify Conflict Styles +

There is no relationship life without conflict. Yet many couples have never been taught how to engage in conflict in healthy ways. Most of us have never seen healthy conflicts in our upbringing. And sometimes what we did see we considered healthy. Often what we saw was the normalization of unhealthy conflict resolution.

Because of this, many couples have stacks of unresolved conflicts, which put extraordinary pressure on their relationships. Once couples begin to understand the science behind why we operate in conflicts the way we do, embrace the principles for functioning well in conflicts, and begin practicing the skills for engaging one another, they experience a new freedom with one another.

Stage 4 - Develop “Love Talk” & Communication Skills +

If 80% of communication is non-verbal, it’s important that couples learn to see the entire picture when they attempt to communicate. Words are only one aspect of our “love talk.” Our bodies say a great deal, and we must learn to read each other beneath the surface of our words in a way that helps us connect.

Couples who work with Love Again and who implement our Dream Marriage Method discover a powerful new framework that helps them improve their communication exponentially, beginning with the inner personal work that is foundational.

Stage 5 - Rebuild Broken Trust +

When conflicts are left unresolved, communication breaks down, and emotional needs suffer, broken trust is the result. In this stage, couples learn the keys to safely and consistently putting trust back into their dynamic. This is a delicate process that takes time. But our Dream Marriage Method provides couples a way to know for sure how to rebuild broken trust even if trust has been lost for years.

Our approach to rebuilding trust helps couples recover their love even if there have been repeated infidelities or other painful relationship injuries.

Stage 6 - Create A Healing Environment +

Great relationships are built in great environments. In this final stage, couples learn the power of helping each other heal from past relationship injuries within their relationships, as well as from family-of-origin pain and traumatic experiences.

Many of our clients—private and group—discover that this stage introduces them to a game-changing concept that we call “Healing Together.” It changes their focus to long-term success, not only for themselves but for their family, with powerful implications for generations to come.

Cover Him is a coaching manual for wives who want to know how best to relate to the mysterious needs, thoughts, and feelings of the men who mean the most to her — i.e. husband, father, sons, nephews.

BUY COVER HIM

Cover Her is a clarion call to step up, to man up. This book will help you be the husband that your wife adores. The father a kid can look up to. The man who inspires other men to think, I want to be more like him. Meanwhile, the devil says, “Uh-oh. I am in big trouble with this guy around!

BUY COVER HER

As a former 11 year NFL veteran, NFL Chaplain and Director of NFL Programs for Pro Athletes Outreach for 12 years, I have heard and interacted with many well known Christian speakers, authors, and teachers. I consider Rod Hairston at the top of that list.

- DON DAVIS, PAO

Sessions with Pastor Rod bought us closer together as a couple- helping us to have healthy communication and answering to the pains in our past that made things difficult for us in our marriage.
- TREY + YESENIA, NFL

My husband and I began marriage coaching after being in a relationship crisis. We were headed to separation or divorce. Rod was the key to us opening up and realizing issues in ourselves and more importantly how to address them. This has been by far the absolute best investment into our family’s legacy.

- MYRANDA + JASON, NFL

Rod Hairston changed the trajectory of our marriage. We were at the brink of divorce. We began to apply the coaching, and our marriage was transformed. We saw each other differently, we were more empathetic, we showed more grace, we communicated about our struggles and feelings, most importantly, we found love again.

- CARY + AMANDA, NFL