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Walk Away From Porn…  For Good This Time

Get to the root of your relationship with porn and say goodbye to the urges, the control, and the shame for good.

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WE ALL WANT TO BE FREE FROM HABITS 

THAT MAKE US FEEL LIKE FAILURES

You likely started watching pornography at a young age, but you never intended to become hooked. And now it has become an albatross that makes you feel ashamed almost immediately after the short-lived pleasure. You’ve tried everything to stop, including reading books, attending seminars, maybe even 12-Step programs.  

Your best intentions and earnest promises have fallen short and now…

  • The Shame Is Getting Worse
  • Your Spouse Feels Betrayed
  • You Feel Out of Control
  • Intimacy With Your Spouse Feels Empty
  • You Can’t Escape the Images In Your Mind
  • Being Alone Is A Struggle
  • It’s Getting In the Way of Everything

Most people who struggle with pornography are good people who would stop if they could. But nothing they’ve tried gets to the root of the issue, so any success has been short lived. It’s not your fault that you’ve been told to pray more and simply change your habits rather than uncover the real reason you self-soothe in a way that’s sabotaging your credibility and confidence.

You Need The Say Goodbye System

Rod’s Proprietary 7-Part System for Freedom from Porn

The truth is once you master the real reason you’ve sought pleasure in porn, you’ll be free to retrain your brain and have sustained success with freedom from the habit and the voices of shame. 

Introducing Say Goodbye to Porn

The Say Goodbye to Pornography course will help you reimagine and rediscover life without porn.  You’ll learn the relational-emotional roots of your struggle, the pathway that led to becoming hooked, and the exit routes that actually work, long-term.  

Say Goodbye to Pornography is a video-based program that takes you step-by-step on a journey that includes self-discovery, emotional growth, spiritual wisdom, and brain rewiring. It is a self-paced, on-demand video approach combined with a weekly coaching call.   The videos allow motivated students to revisit any part of the program at any time.  The 6, weekly coaching calls provide LIVE guidance, encouragement, and accountability complementing the video program.

Using the Say Goodbye System, you’ll be guided to have honest explorations of your life journey, to experience compassion, to confront the damaging impact of porn, and to renew your mind and your living environments for success and freedom. You’ll get to the root of your habit and start enjoying freedom.

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Student Praise for The Dream Marriage Masterclass

“I just celebrated my first anniversary of living without porn thanks to the Say Goodbye System. I was losing hope until I discovered the real reasons why I was addicted.  My wife and I are celebrating this huge win!”  

Anonymous – NFL

“I had no idea the painful experiences I was trying to suppress from my past.  I’ve been using porn since I was 12 years old.  My dad meant well, but everything was about my  performance. That pressure followed me into my professional career.   I had no idea why I was using porn almost daily after work.  I’m finally free.” 

Anonymous – NFL

“My father encouraged me to use porn when I was a teenager. He use to watch it openly, in the house, as me and my siblings passed through the living room. I didn’t know I was using it to cope with feelings of low self-esteem.”    

Anonymous – Transportation

“Porn is normal in my career.  Almost every guy on the team uses it. It’s all around the locker room. With a long season away from family and a challenging travel schedule, quitting was a losing battle. Eventually my struggle made my wife feel betrayed and angry. Learning from Say Goodbye Porn about the role of family dynamics and my way of hiding, was the eye opener that changed my life and our marriage.”


Anonymous – MLB

Who is Rod Hairston? 

I’ve spent a lifetime studying marriage and romantic relationships while working with high-performing, college, and professional athletes. In my work with athletes I’ve seen porn and sex addictions disrupt the lives of some wonderful men and women. My commitment to support them led to the discovery of an effective strategy I now use to help private clients win against porn, including understanding the role of emotions in addictions, seeing the impact of adverse childhood experiences, and opening up for spiritual growth.

Being raised by a single mom, I beat the odds to become a 2X Super Bowl champion and successful entrepreneur. I’m grateful to have accomplished great marriage and career success as a husband of 34 years, father of 4 amazing adult children, author of 3 books, and being a marriage coach and advisor to highly respected people in the world of professional sports and business.

While all of the above sounds great, the rest of the story is that I struggle just like you. Having grown up with no dad around, I faced bullying and watched my Mom struggle to make the bills work. Fear and insecurity still grip me hard some days.  I was introduced to porn at the age of 12. No one talked to me about sexual purity.  Like anyone else, I too was tempted to soothe my unspoken pains. By God’s grace, I’m free of addiction… except for coffee. Yet there’s so much that I haven’t figured out yet about life and my driven personality. But one thing I am sure of is that shame-free living changes the game. Fighting for it is worth it.

WHAT IS INSIDE OF

“Say Goodbye to Porn”? 

Say Goodbye to Porn goes in depth about the nature of porn addiction, the reasons people become hooked, and the impact it has on those who are in its grip. Through the course, you will discover all of the essentials of how to overcome the struggle and live free of pornography, including: 

Part #1 – Re-think “Addictions” +
Don’t be afraid of the word “addiction.” Contrary to what people are told, addictions are not an indication that you’re stuck for life. Instead it’s an indication that you’re substituting something unhealthy for something you’ve never fully dealt with or resolved in your life. Addictions are our way of hiding. In this first part of Say Goodbye to Porn you will have to courageously confront what you may be hiding, hiding in, or hiding from. This is a monumental first step to getting free!
Part #2 – Shake Off The Shame +
Porn addictions have a way of making people shrink away in shame. You feel like a much lesser version of yourself because you’ve been unable to kick the habit. And the voice of shame keeps saying what a terrible person you are. But God has a much better message for you and for the millions of others who share the struggle. You will learn to replace the shame-filled messages, recognize that you are not by yourself, and renew your mind away from unhelpful limiting beliefs.
Part #3 – Discover How You Got Here +
In this module you will trace your steps back to the beginning and put the pieces together. You will open your eyes to the somewhat predictable path to your battle with pornography. If you don’t know how you got to where you are and try to simply change your behaviors, you miss an important part of the journey to your freedom. You will also make the connection between painful experiences and porn usage.
Part #4 – Learn to RULER Your Emotions +
Your emotions play a much bigger part in your struggle than you may realize. In this module, you will take a dive into understanding the world of your emotions and begin developing emotional awareness. Pornography teaches you to numb your emotions. But it’s time to wake up to your emotions and begin to exercise control over them.
Part #5 – Track Your Unique Triggers +
Porn addictions are often accompanied by and triggered by experiences that you may not be aware of even if you’ve had them many times over the course of your life. You’ll learn to recognize the experiences that often make you want to turn to pornography. Then you will be empowered to reframe your response to those experiences.
Part #6 – Rewire Your Brain +
Your brain is your largest sex organ… believe it or not! No matter how long you’ve been using pornography, your brain has been going along for the ride. And it produces powerful neurochemicals every time you watch porn. You’ll learn what happens in your brain and how to begin rewiring your brain for a new life without pornography.
Part #7 – Create A New Environment +
Our environments, whether home, relationships, decor, music, television, etc, have a big impact on us. You’ll learn to arrange your environments for ongoing success. You will have to decide that your environments are your choice to make. Once you choose environments that align with your goal to live porn-free, you’ll experience the snowball effect in your progress.
BONUS MODULE – Facing The Damage +
Pornography struggles don’t just affect you. They also affect someone you love, whether a spouse or a partner. Addictions never allow us to show up fully available. An important final step is to face the damage pornography has caused to your most important relationships. In this bonus module, I’ll guide you to safely and meaningfully face the damage porn usage has caused.

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THE SAY GOODBYE GUARANTEE
 

When it comes to porn struggles, my team is committed to your success! That’s why we’ve taken the time to develop this eye-opening, life-changing program. But you must be more committed to your success than anyone else is. The stories of my clients prove that if you give focused attention to each module, apply them consistently, and complete the homework exercises, you will see powerful results.   

Because every person’s struggle and every person’s idea of “doing the hard work” is different, there’s no way to measure your effort or to guarantee when you will get free.  But I’m confident that doing this work will get you so much closer to success than you’ve likely been. Dig in, embrace the journey with humility, and stay focused. As you get started, put your “support team” together–i.e. a coach, a teammate, a trusted friend, a pastor, maybe a brother or sister. Invite them to commit to supporting you so you’re not alone. I find keeping your support team to only 2 or 3 people works best.

Here’s What You Get In “Say Goodbye to Porn

A super-clear framework for success with clear and in-depth video lessons that will guide you to a life without porn usage, including: 

  • Learn To Transform From Inside
  • Discover How Shame Holds Us Back 
  • Clear Understanding of The Emotional Roots of Addiction
  • Spiritual Truths To Use Practically, Daily
  • Focus On Mindsets That Empower New Behaviors
  • Guidance To Grow Emotionally
  • Be Challenged To Face The Impact of Addiction In Your Life
  • Help To Develop New Relationship Skills
  • Strategies For Creating New Environments for Success
  • Insights On The Important Role Your Brain Plays
  • Steps To Take To Retrain Your Brain for Success
PLUS, FREE BONUS GUIDES INCLUDED:
How To Talk With Your Spouse About Your Porn Struggles

Your spouse has felt betrayed because of your struggle. How do you talk about it without minimizing their experience? How do you strengthen your connection together so you don’t have to feel alone and they don’t have to feel insecure in your relationship? This FREE guide will provide you with some helpful tips and insights.

How To Travel Porn Free 

Traveling–especially, traveling alone for work–can be a real challenge. Work stress, loneliness, old emotional memories can be difficult to handle.  The Porn-Free Travel Guide will give you a game plan that you can use with every trip!  You can be porn-free even if you travel often.  

How To Assemble & Maximize Your Support Team

 Strongholds like porn cannot be successfully dismantled without the help of others. As much as you may want to do this in your own power, you cannot. You will need a trusted team of supporters who will cheer you on and challenge you to stay on track with the Say Goodbye Program! This FREE guide is yet another way that we can support your win. You’ll get clear guidance for selecting and maximizing your support team.

I’M READY TO SAY GOODBYE, NOW!

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