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REBUILD Your Relationship AFTER INFIDELITY

Rebuild trust, connection, and commitment after the infidelity that has rocked your life and your relationship.

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WHEN YOU TRUST SOMEONE WITH YOUR HEART, YOU EXPECT THEM TO BE FAITHFUL TO YOU

Infidelity is a painful breach of relationship trust that causes profound emotional trauma. It tears apart not only your relationship and family but also your trust and your sense of self. Spouses and partners who experience betrayal often describe feelings such as:

  • Shock

  • Disbelief

  • Deflation

  • Overwhelm

  • Anger

  • Devastation

  • Confusion

  • Loss of Confidence

Many couples believe that apologies and forgiveness are enough to heal the damage caused by infidelity. The unfaithful partner often thinks that simply moving on and avoiding the subject will allow them to "get back to normal." However, what they don’t realize is that healing from infidelity requires a deliberate process with crucial steps.

Couples must work together to repair and rebuild trust. Unfortunately, when infidelity strikes, there are few places couples can turn to for guidance through this difficult journey.

The Rebuilding Us Framework

You CAN rebuild! Once both partners, with the unfaithful partner taking the lead, embrace the responsibility of creating a new day for your relationship, you can begin the process of rebuilding trust and fostering an emotionally safe environment.

The Rebuilding Us framework is rooted in biblical principles and backed by psychological clarity, providing you with the tools and guidance you need to rebuild your relationship into the one you once dreamed of.

Introducing Rebuilding Us: The Couples' Safe Space for Recovering from Affairs

 

Rebuilding Us is a coaching program designed to help couples navigate the complex journey of recovery after infidelity. Our program guides couples through the processes of being honest, making crucial decisions, understanding the root causes of infidelity, and learning how to heal deep emotional wounds in their relationship.

Rebuilding Us is delivered as a LIVE 8-week coaching program. It combines scheduled, private conference calls, on-demand course materials, and private Zoom sessions to provide couples with the guidance they need while ensuring their privacy is protected.

Cohorts are limited to 5 couples to allow for personalized, real-time coaching. This structure ensures each couple receives the support needed to overcome the challenging emotions of anger, fear, confusion, anxiety, and resentment that come with infidelity. Privacy is maintained and protected for each couple throughout the process.

Couples must be approved to participate in a cohort. Once your application is approved, you can enroll in the Rebuilding Us Experience.

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Student Praise For Rebuilding Us

“The training we received from Rod Hairston on how to support couples who are struggling with infidelity was amazing. I’ve been working with couples for years as a trained, licensed counselor. I’ve never felt more equipped after 8 weeks of eye opening insights.”

- Claudia Flowers, M.A., LCPC

“From the first week in the Rebuilding Us training for leaders, my wife and I realized we had som e real work to do on our marriage. We began working on a type of infidelity that had been going on in our marriage for years. We got far more than we imagined. Rod was a blessing to our team!”


- FBCG Couples Ministry Leadership Couple

“I never connected the abuse I suffered as a child with my multiple failures of infidelity in my marriage including the use of pornography for many years. The group coaching experience was a tremendous help. Rod patiently supported each couple giving us insights and guidance as well as challenges when we needed it. Our marriage is healing and in a much more hopeful place than it’s ever been.”


- Declan & Simonette

Who is Rod Hairston?

I’ve spent a lifetime studying marriage and romantic relationships, with a focus on working with high-performing college and professional athletes. In my work with athletes, I’ve witnessed how porn and sex addictions disrupt the lives of incredible men and women. My commitment to helping them led to the discovery of an effective strategy that I now use to help private clients overcome porn addiction. This includes understanding the role of emotions in addiction, recognizing the impact of adverse childhood experiences, and fostering spiritual growth.

Raised by a single mom, I beat the odds to become a 2X Super Bowl champion and a successful entrepreneur. I’m grateful for the success I’ve found in my marriage of 34 years, as a father of 4 amazing adult children, as an author of 3 books, and as a marriage coach and advisor to highly respected figures in professional sports and business.

While all of this sounds great, the truth is, I struggle just like you—even as an Executive Coach and Pastor. Growing up without a father, I faced bullying and witnessed my mom struggle to make ends meet. Fear and insecurity still grip me on some days. I was introduced to porn at the age of 12, and no one ever talked to me about sexual purity. Like many, I turned to porn to soothe my pain.

By God’s grace, I am now free from addiction… except for coffee. But even after all I’ve accomplished, there’s still so much I haven’t figured out about life and my driven personality. One thing I’m certain of, though, is that shame-free living changes everything. Fighting for it is worth it.

What’s Inside Rebuilding Us? 

Rebuilding Us guides couples through the steps of recovery from infidelity, helping them deeply understand the nature of infidelity and embrace a proven process for recovery and healing. As a hope dealer, I ensure each lesson is rooted in spiritual truths (no religious background required).

Couples will complete homework exercises after each session to maximize their healing potential. On this transformative journey, couples will experience everything they need to fully recover, including:

Session #1 – The Nature of Infidelity & Why We Do It +
Infidelity is an extraordinary breaking of trust. In our first session we’ll teach cohort members “the nature of the beast,” why infidelity is painful and disorienting like few storms that can hit a marriage or relationship. Our first session will lay the groundwork of understanding and give couples the basis for some very important conversations.
Session #2 – The Disclosure–Better Known As D-Day +
Couples will learn the dynamics of infidelity disclosures, why D-Day is essential, how to process disclosures, and what to expect after the disclosure has been made by the unfaithful partner. You’ll be provided with guidelines for when and how to disclose your infidelity.
Session #3 – Seeing Emotional Needs +
Emotional needs are foundational to all our behaviors as human beings. In this session, couples will learn the role our emotions play both where there’s infidelity and in the journey to healing. You’ll also learn how to tune into each other’s single-most important emotional need.
Session #4 – Learning To Communicate +
Communication suffers greatly when infidelity happens. Our emotions impact our ability to communicate, and all the more when our relationships have suffered a blow of betrayal. Couples will learn all-important principles for communicating with each other on the journey to recovery and healing.
Session #5 – The Actual Process For Recovery +
Recovery from infidelity is possible, but it’s not for those who want overnight success. There is a defined process that supports recovery and healing. In this session, partners will learn the process, and they will learn their responsibilities in the process. The unfaithful partner will bear responsibility to lead with humility and with consistency. The faithful partner will also have responsibilities in order to avoid sabotaging the process.
Session #6 – Focusing On Healing +
Infidelity causes a relationship wound that cannot be ignored or treated with Neosporin! The wound must be acknowledged, respected, and treated for healing. In this session, couples will learn the pathway and practices for healing the unique injuries known as relationship wounds. With God’s help and tenacious commitment to the process, complete healing is possible.
Session #7 – Focusing On Rebuilding Trust +
Strong trust is the foundation of healthy romantic relationships. Infidelity destroys trust. Until trust is re-established, the relationship and the wounded partner will always be suspicious and distrusting. In this session couples learn a clear, effective framework for daily building trust in the little things and in the big things.
Session #8 – Facing & Healing Sex Addictions +
Often, though not always, when there is infidelity there can also be an addiction to sex or to pornography that neither partner knew existed! To help couples who want to rebuild their relationship into something far better than it was, they have to know how to keep addictive sexual behaviors away from their new relationship environment. In this session, couples will learn what to watch for, how to protect against, and fundamentals for healing sex addictions.

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REBUILDING US

 

 I am passionate about helping motivated couples recover from infidelity. You don’t have to throw away your marriage or relationship just because infidelity has happened. But you do need to embark on the journey of healing.

Cohorts are limited to 5 couples at a time to ensure maximum access to Rod Hairston, M.A., as your coach. Cohorts utilize a private conference call model combined with one-on-one coaching sessions. During the 8-week cohort, you’ll be able to schedule your private coaching sessions with Rod, ensuring personalized guidance and support.

Start your Rebuilding Us journey today by submitting your application and scheduling your introduction session!

 

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Here’s What You Get in REBUILDING US

8 Weeks of Expert, Private 1-on-1 Coaching to Guide You Through the Rebuilding Process

In-depth lessons designed to provide a clear framework, actionable instructions, and timeless principles for each phase of the infidelity recovery process. By the end of this 8-week journey, you’ll walk away with:

  • Clarity on the Tsunami Effect of Infidelity—no more confusion

  • Increased courage and sensitivity toward your faithful partner

  • Confidence to work toward full recovery

  • Resistance to sabotage and distractions

  • Understanding the reasons why people have affairs

  • Improved communication skills

  • A clear understanding of the healing process

BONUS: Lifetime access to the Rebuilding Us Infidelity Recovery Course, offering ongoing support and resources for your healing journey.

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