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BUILD A BETTER RELATIONSHIP AFTER INFIDELITY

Rebuild trust, connection, and commitment after the infidelity that has rocked your life and your relationship.

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WHEN YOU TRUST SOMEONE WITH YOUR HEART, 

YOU EXPECT THEM TO BE FAITHFUL TO YOU

Infidelity is a painful breach of relationship trust. It inflicts unimaginable trauma on the person who has been faithful, tears apart your relationship, your family, your trust, and your soul. Spouses and partners who experience betrayal describe feeling:

  • In Shock
  • Disbelief
  • Deflated
  • Overwhelmed
  • Angry
  • Devastated
  • Confused
  • “Why this?… Why me?”
  • A Loss of Confidence

Most couples think apologies and forgiveness are all they need. The person who was unfaithful thinks that if they can just move on and stop talking about it, they can “get back to normal.” But what they don’t know is that healing from infidelity requires an intentional journey with important markers.Together, a couple must learn how to repair and rebuild trust. Unfortunately, when it happens, there are few places a couple can go to be guided through the hard work.

The Rebuilding Us Framework

Once the two of you, led by the unfaithful partner, embrace responsibilities for getting to a new day in your marriage or relationship, then you can focus on the work of rebuilding trust and fostering an emotionally safe environment.

Introducing Rebuilding Us: The Couples’ Safe Space for Recovering From Affairs

 

Rebuilding us is an 8-part framework that guides and coaches couples in the processes of disclosure, important decisions, determining how infidelity began, and diving into the specifics of healing.

Rebuilding Us is delivered as a LIVE 8-week program. Scheduled, private conference calls, combined with the on-demand course, and private Zoom sessions give couples the guidance they need while maintaining their privacy. Cohorts are limited to 5 couples.  This format allows couples to receive real-time coaching that supports them through the challenging experiences of anger, fear, confusion, and resentment that come with infidelity. Privacy is maintained and protected for each couple.

Couples must apply to participate in a cohort. Once your application is completed you will be able to schedule an information session to discuss more details about the Rebuilding Us Experience.  

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Student Praise For Rebuilding Us

“The training we received from Rod Hairston on how to support couples who are struggling with infidelity was amazing. I’ve been working with couples for years as a trained, licensed counselor. I’ve never felt more equipped after 8 weeks of eye opening insights.”

- Claudia Flowers, M.A., LCPC

“From the first week in the Rebuilding Us training for leaders, my wife and I realized we had some real work to do on our marriage. We began working on a type of infidelity that had been going on in our marriage for years. We got far more than we imagined. Rod was a blessing to our team!”


- FBCG Couples Ministry Leadership Couple

“I never connected the abuse I suffered as a child with my multiple failures of infidelity in my marriage including the use of pornography for many years. The group coaching experience was a tremendous help. Rod patiently supported each couple giving us insights and guidance as well as challenges when we needed it. Our marriage is healing and in a much more hopeful place than it’s ever been.”


- Declan & Simonette

Who is Rod Hairston? 

I’ve spent a lifetime studying marriage and romantic relationships while working with high-performing, college, and professional athletes. In my work with athletes I’ve seen porn and sex addictions disrupt the lives of some wonderful men and women. My commitment to support them led to the discovery of an effective strategy I now use to help private clients win against porn, including understanding the role of emotions in addictions, seeing the impact of adverse childhood experiences, and opening up for spiritual growth.

Being raised by a single mom, I beat the odds to become a 2X Super Bowl champion and successful entrepreneur. I’m grateful to have accomplished great marriage and career success as a husband of 34 years, father of 4 amazing adult children, author of 3 books, and being a marriage coach and advisor to highly respected people in the world of professional sports and business.

While all of the above sounds great, the rest of the story is that I struggle just like you. Having grown up with no dad around, I faced bullying and watched my Mom struggle to make the bills work. Fear and insecurity still grip me hard some days.  I was introduced to porn at the age of 12. No one talked to me about sexual purity.  Like anyone else, I too was tempted to soothe my unspoken pains. By God’s grace, I’m free of addiction… except for coffee. Yet there’s so much that I haven’t figured out yet about life and my driven personality. But one thing I am sure of is that shame-free living changes the game. Fighting for it is worth it.

What’s Inside Rebuilding Us? 

Rebuilding Us guides couples through the steps of recovery from infidelity by helping them thoroughly understand the nature of infidelity and embracing a proven process for recovery and healing. Because I consider myself a hope dealer, each lesson will be founded upon spiritual truths. (No religious background required.) Couples will be expected to do homework exercises after each session in order to maximize their opportunity for healing. In the group, couples will discover all of the essentials of how to fully recover, including:

Session #1 – The Nature of Infidelity & Why We Do It +
Infidelity is an extraordinary breaking of trust. In our first session we’ll teach cohort members “the nature of the beast,” why infidelity is painful and disorienting like few storms that can hit a marriage or relationship. Our first session will lay the groundwork of understanding and give couples the basis for some very important conversations.
Session #2 – The Disclosure–Better Known As D-Day +
Couples will learn the dynamics of infidelity disclosures, why D-Day is essential, how to process disclosures, and what to expect after the disclosure has been made by the unfaithful partner. You’ll be provided with guidelines for when and how to disclose your infidelity.
Session #3 – Seeing Emotional Needs +
Emotional needs are foundational to all our behaviors as human beings. In this session, couples will learn the role our emotions play both where there’s infidelity and in the journey to healing. You’ll also learn how to tune into each other’s single-most important emotional need.
Session #4 – Learning To Communicate +
Communication suffers greatly when infidelity happens. Our emotions impact our ability to communicate, and all the more when our relationships have suffered a blow of betrayal. Couples will learn all-important principles for communicating with each other on the journey to recovery and healing.
Session #5 – The Actual Process For Recovery +
Recovery from infidelity is possible, but it’s not for those who want overnight success. There is a defined process that supports recovery and healing. In this session, partners will learn the process, and they will learn their responsibilities in the process. The unfaithful partner will bear responsibility to lead with humility and with consistency. The faithful partner will also have responsibilities in order to avoid sabotaging the process.
Session #6 – Focusing On Healing +
Infidelity causes a relationship wound that cannot be ignored or treated with Neosporin! The wound must be acknowledged, respected, and treated for healing. In this session, couples will learn the pathway and practices for healing the unique injuries known as relationship wounds. With God’s help and tenacious commitment to the process, complete healing is possible.
Session #7 – Focusing On Rebuilding Trust +
Strong trust is the foundation of healthy romantic relationships. Infidelity destroys trust. Until trust is re-established, the relationship and the wounded partner will always be suspicious and distrusting. In this session couples learn a clear, effective framework for daily building trust in the little things and in the big things.
Session #8 – Facing & Healing Sex Addictions +
Often, though not always, when there is infidelity there can also be an addiction to sex or to pornography that neither partner knew existed! To help couples who want to rebuild their relationship into something far better than it was, they have to know how to keep addictive sexual behaviors away from their new relationship environment. In this session, couples will learn what to watch for, how to protect against, and fundamentals for healing sex addictions.

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REBUILDING US

I am passionate about helping motivated couples recover from infidelity. You don’t have to throw away your marriage or relationship because infidelity has happened. But you do have to embark on the journey.

Cohorts are limited to 5 couples at a time so couples can have maximum access to Rod Hairston, MA, as their coach. Cohorts use a private conference call model combined with private coaching sessions. During the 8-week cohort, you’ll be able to schedule your private coaching sessions with Rod as well. Begin your Rebuilding Us journey by submitting your application and scheduling an introduction session!

 

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Here’s What You Get in REBUILDING US

8 Weeks of expert, private 1-on-1 coaching to guide and support you through the rebuilding process.

In-depth video lessons that will give you an important framework, instructions, and timeless principles for each phase of the recovery process, including: 

  • The Tsunami Effect of Infidelity
  • D-Day Dos & Don’ts
  • What Hinders Recovery
  • How to Avoid Sabotaging
  • The Reasons People Have Affairs
  • The Essential Mindsets That Lead to Success
  • Communication Strategies
  • Clear Understanding of The Healing Process

BONUS: The Rebuilding Us Infidelity Recovery Course (Lifetime Access)

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